The Bar-On EQ-i Facets of EQ:
16 Skills Definitions
Self-Regard: the ability to respect and accept yourself as basically good.
Self-Actualization: the ability to realize your potential capacities.
Emotional Self-Awareness: the ability to accurately recognize your feelings.
Emotional Expression: the ability to express your feelings verbally and non-verbally.
Independence: the ability to be self-directed and self-controlled in your thinking and actions, and be free of emotional dependency.
Assertiveness: the ability to express feelings, beliefs, and thoughts, and defend your rights in a nondestructive manner.
Interpersonal Relationships: the ability to establish and maintain mutually satisfying relationships characterized by intimacy, and by giving and receiving affection.
Empathy: the ability to be aware of, understand and appreciate others’ feelings.
Social Responsibility: the ability to be a cooperative, contributing and constructive member of your social group.
Problem Solving: the ability to identify and define problems, as well as to generate and implement potentially effective solutions.
Reality Testing: the ability to assess the correspondence between what you experience and what objectively exists.
Impulse Control: the ability to resist or delay an impulse, drive or temptation to act.
Stress Tolerance: the ability to withstand adverse events and stressful situations without “falling apart” by actively and positively coping with stress.
Flexibility: the ability to adjust your emotions, thoughts and behavior to changing situations and conditions.
Optimism: the ability to look at the brighter side of life and to maintain a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity (a focus on the future).
Happiness: the ability to feel satisfied with your life, to enjoy yourself and others, and have fun (a focus on the present).