The Bar-On EQ-i Facets of EQ: 
16 Skills Definitions

Self-Regard: the ability to respect and accept yourself as basically good.

Self-Actualization: the ability to realize your potential capacities.

Emotional Self-Awareness: the ability to accurately recognize your feelings.

Emotional Expression: the ability to express your feelings verbally and non-verbally.

Independence: the ability to be self-directed and self-controlled in your thinking and actions, and be free of emotional dependency.

Assertiveness: the ability to express feelings, beliefs, and thoughts, and defend your rights in a nondestructive manner.

Interpersonal Relationships: the ability to establish and maintain mutually satisfying relationships characterized by intimacy, and by giving and receiving affection.

Empathy: the ability to be aware of, understand and appreciate others’ feelings.

Social Responsibility: the ability to be a cooperative, contributing and constructive member of your social group.

Problem Solving: the ability to identify and define problems, as well as to generate and implement potentially effective solutions.

Reality Testing: the ability to assess the correspondence between what you experience and what objectively exists.

Impulse Control: the ability to resist or delay an impulse, drive or temptation to act.

Stress Tolerance: the ability to withstand adverse events and stressful situations without “falling apart” by actively and positively coping with stress.

Flexibility: the ability to adjust your emotions, thoughts and behavior to changing situations and conditions.

Optimism: the ability to look at the brighter side of life and to maintain a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity (a focus on the future).

Happiness: the ability to feel satisfied with your life, to enjoy yourself and others, and have fun (a focus on the present).